My Denise Rubuttal
Okay guys. Looks like I got some 'splaining to do, so gather 'round.
First of all, I love Denise dearly. She is one of my very closest friends. I don't think I deserve a medal for 'hanging out' with her. I love spending time with her. I made the medal comment about her puerile thoughts on all things sexual. Its not my place to teach her about sex. Shes not my lover, or my daughter. She knows everything she feels she needs to know and she is fine with that. Why should anybody feel sad about that? She is completely blissful in her sexual innocence, and that is more than good enough for me. If her husband thinks otherwise, then its his job, not mine, to take her through that journey. Not everyone's life revolves around sex. In fact, I almost envy her insouciance on the matter. Almost.
Now, the bit on diseases. I know what she meant, and perhaps I should have earlier specified, as this has been the subject of many an email, stirring quite the debate. She was thinking along the lines of the hair protecting the vagina against infection, std's or otherwise, not unlike nose hairs catching foreign bodies and protecting against illness. If the hair is absent, there is nothing protecting the tender area from semen carrying potential diseases or even perhaps airborn bacteria. Not unreasonable, just unproven. Furthermore, regular shaving opens the possibility of nicks and cuts, which of course can also make the area susceptible to attack. She wasn't talking crazy or anything, in fact what she said made sense. Its just wrong, at least as far as I know. She may one day be proven right! lol But anyway, that will hopefully clear up that debate. I agree that a trimmed bikini area can be just as erotic as a shaved one. And the first time I was asked to shave, I admit I was shocked at the pre-pubescent appearance. The positives obviously outweighed the negatives for me, but thats purely my opinion.
I don't feel obligated to tell Denise that I shave myself, nor do I feel the need to tell her that I enjoy nipple jewelry, or reading Playboys, or watching porn. And I don't feel dishonest, or that I am 'doing a disservice' by keeping these things private. (well, relatively private:)
Have I hit every hot point? lol If not, ask away, you know I'll answer.
On a separate note, I want to send out a big wet kiss to burbman. Apology most graciously accepted, and I thank you. I know you weren't trying to be mean. Thank you for the compliments as well. You flatter me, love. :)