Proceeding with caution
It is undeniably funny that now that Rick and I have decided to start trying for a second baby, I have suddenly gotten shy about sex. Well, not shy, thats not the word I was looking for. I guess I've become suddenly aware of the sheer amount of sex we have, and am desperatly trying to make sure that I don't bore Rick to death with it.
This isn't coming out right. Can you feel my frustration? lol Perhaps a short conception lesson would make my point more clear.
Stating the obvious here, but there is an extremely short window of opportunity each month to get pregnant. The sperm has to be ready and waiting for the egg to make her ever so brief appearance before she disappears, never to be seen again. That being said, when you know when you are due to ovulate, there is a mad rush to have sex as much as possible, increasing the chances of baby making.
I am a very impatient person, in case you couldn't tell, and so upon the decision to start for baby #2, I wanted to be pregnant immediatly. Thats unrealistic, really. But it doesn't mean that I'm not trying. This is why I'm afraid I'll bore Rick of sex. I know what days we are supposed to have sex, and though we may have had sex that night anyway, I tend to feel as though I'm forcing him, or that I'm making sex a chore. Thats not to say that Rick is acting bored. In fact, we have had some extremely intense love making sessions as of late. I suppose insecurities have to show their ugly heads somewhere.
Its stupid, really.
Gosh, I had forgotten how different sex is without Rick withdrawing to come. Its so much more bonding and intimate this way, not to mention the entirely different sensations. Thank God for baby making! lol
I can't help but think that this is a bad time for me to approach Rick about the whole domination thing. I'm not sure how he would feel saying the dirty things I love to hear, or doing the naughty things I love to do while I am with child. Does that make sense? Maybe I'm over thinking it, or maybe I'm just thinking of excuses not to have to have the talk. Things that make you go "Hmmmmm".
posted by Good Wife @ 1:29 PM
15 Comments:
I have said it before, and I'll say it again - the best part about having kids, is making them! Just kidding! Although, it is a great bonus that sex is involved in conception! I wish you two the best of luck in your baby-making efforts. Maybe it's just me (and it probably is) since I'm not getting any, but I have never viewed sex as 'a chore' or 'boring'. With that said, I still think if you have these desires to try new things and spice up your life in the bedroom, tell him about it. He might surprise you and be into it. And if that makes the experience that much more pleasurable for the two of you and makes conception easier, more power to ya!
I don't think I'd have a problem with it. But then I really don't want to know what kind of kinky shit my parents did while I was gestating.
To this day, the sound of a fly swatter forces me into a fetal position.
LMAO!! Oh my God, Mike! hee hee! I haven't laughed that hard in a long time! :)
xoxo
Keep in mind that 'too much' sex thins out the sperm. Sperm banks require that you abstain for two-three days before making a deposit, so they have a high enough density to give the best chance. The window is small, but overworking the production facilty reduces the chances...
Yeah, I agree with Anon... sperm count thins out after several times of sex. Rick should save the 'S' bomb for the day you are the most fertile. Then he can try small raids or sperm skirmishes every now and thirty minutes for two days after your fertility day.
The worst thing you can do is make your husband think he is being used as a baby batter factory. It makes us men feel used! ;-)
Lots of horny sex is the answer - I am always a sucker for that. Those sperm are strong swimmers and it only takes one...
Pregnant sex is great. Dirty talk is not wrong. I undersstand how you would feel that, with the developing baby so close. I don't think he would ever be bored of you if your as creative in the sack as you are with a keyboard. It sounds like you are. Practice, practice, practice, I can't stress it enough. My wife is pregnant as I type this and she looks awesome. She is so happy and full of life about our new child. It makes lovin fun.
Good Wife, with all of the extra traffic your blog is getting it's become harder and harder to get a comment published. Yea, I still got that sucky dial up internet connection stuff going on.
Good luck on the second pregnancy. Oh and as to that comment about Ricky and you needing to abstain so that the sperm count can go up...Well, I'm not a fertility doctor but I do remember from human sexuality courses that men who have frequent ejaculations have healthier and more active sperm. Yes, the count is lower than someone who goes all week without orgasm, but compared to the prim and proper man the frequent ejaculator's sperm is more likely to go the distance. With sperm banks, all of the sperm that's collected is basically for invitero (sp?) fertilization and they're not worried if the boys can swim well or not. This comment does not however condone Ricky's acts of rubbing the bone raw.
And by the way, what's up with Ricky pulling out to orgasm? Was this something the two of you just enjoyed or was it being used as a form of birth control? Just curious.
Another thought while I'm able to comment: Is all of this extra traffic to your site a good or a bad thing in your opinion? As for me, I'm annoyed that It's hard to post comments here with blogspot.
Hi WT! Please tell me, what problems are you having with posting? I've not noticed any problems at all, and I too have crappy dial up. Is it that your comments don't show up right away? Or are you unable to comment at all? I' d like to try and fix this problem right away if I can. You can always email me at good_wife00@excite.com, if you so desire.
I agree with what you said about sperm count. All it takes is one, and in a healthy man with normal sperm count, such things should not make a difference. Actually, Denise, you all remember Denise!, went to a fertility doctor who told her just exactly that. The goal is to have sperm ready and waiting near the cervix for when the egg has matured, as she is only ready to party for a short 12 hours. After that, you're out of luck. We shall see how we fare, thank you so much for the well wishes!
As for Rick pulling out, yes, that was our form of birth control. Obviously not the most reliable, and I am well aware of the Cowper's gland and how it is possible to conceive without him even coming inside of me. But its what worked for us. I have had bad reactions to pills and am unwilling to try other more invasive methods for fear of affecting fertility. We also chose not to use condoms, and really, I did enjoy having Rick come on me. However, I much prefer our current methods! lol
Its funny you asked me how I felt about the large increase in traffic, as I vividly recall you asking the exact question on your blog not long ago. Has my answer changed? Well, the first day of my sudden surge of visitors was fantastic! I loved the attention! The next morning, I found myself frightened of my blog! lol Now, I must add that I have been getting other publicity recently that I will share in a post soon, so this may have added to my anxiety. I was suddenly overly aware of every word I typed, not wanting to say the wrong thing. This didn't last long. I quickly fell back into the swing of things, and have learned to enjoy my new visitors, without constantly worrying what they may think of me.
Does that make sense enough? lol
I hope we can fix the problem with commenting! I wouldn't want to lose your comments, I've grown rather fond of them!
xoxo
Hey Good Wife, if you thought Rick's pillow escapade was a bad thing...
check this guy out!!!
Hey Good Wife. I went to the link that rolanddog suggested. Damn, anyone should be glad not to be married to a selfish, fetish guy like that. Savage did make a good point about fetish guys. If you find someone willing to do your fetish then you should be willing to do whatever it takes to make them feel safe and secure.
As to the commenting problem with blogspot, it's only happened a few times but when I go to leave a comment the page takes forever and forever to load. I'm thinking that it's the heavy traffic at your site and that others are commenting when I'm attempting to. During these times I stop the page from trying to load so that I don't have to see the timed out error. But no biggy. If I can't comment when I want I'll try again later.
As to the pulling out form of birth control. I've got to say I would rather wear a rubber than to do that. Doesn't it break up the rhythm? After you get pregnant and give birth will you have Ricky get the snip snip?
Yikes! No snip snip, and no tube tying. We just don't believe in doing something so drastic. Also, I hope to have more than two children.
No, pulling out didn't break our rythym. And Rick would rather withdraw than use condoms, which I am perfectly content with. To each his own, yes?
xoxo
Hey GW, maybe you should make a poll about how many were born in each persons household and also what their age is right now...
I'm currently 20 years old, and have an 18 year old sister, and an 8 year old sister.
Heya,
My wife had tremendously increased and kinky sex drive while she was pregnant. It was great. You never know, ask him about it and see what he thinks. It can be some of the best sex you have...
Just a suggestion...
GW,
When my wife and I were trying, I felt like there was big difference between regular sex and "baby-making" sex. After a while, it did start to feel like a chore for both of us. We were having sex because we needed to, not because we wanted to.
Once were even spening the weekend at a nice resort. Nothing beats good hotel sex and I wanted to just for the fun of it. My wife was not ovulating and therefore she had no interest, saying she wanted a break from sex. She was surprised I even wanted to.
I think it took a while for our sex life to recover but it did. And it was worth it, because we have a terrific son!
Another thing that helped? I got the snip-snip. It is really no big thing at all -- hardly major surgery. And without having to worry about taking any sort of precaution, we feel sort of liberated.
But it doesn't sound like you guys have any problems in that department. ;-)
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