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Friday, September 17, 2004

Rick's grandmother sent him a birthday card with a long message about how our estrangement from his parents is just killing his dad. That just talking about us makes him cry and have to change the subject. Hes sad, depressed, wah wah wah wah wah. Is it wrong that hearing that made my day? lol I'm sure shes overexaggerating, but the thought of Rick's dad being in any sort of pain just amuses me to no end. Is that bad? Maybe I need a spanking... Posted by Hello


At Friday, September 17, 2004 9:10:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, not knowing any of the backstory about your relationship with his parents it's hard to comment...but to me it seems a bit cruel to take joy in someone else's pain, no matter what the cause.

But like I said, I don't know the cause...


At Friday, September 17, 2004 9:24:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are evil and wicked. How dare you write such filth and wish such pain on others. The picture is appropriate. God have mercy on your sinful soul.

At Friday, September 17, 2004 10:29:00 PM, Blogger StuckForNow said...

She has just cause..but either way by what right do you have to pass judgement on her like that.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 1:39:00 AM, Blogger Patrick H. said...

First off, happy birthday to Rick, and I hope he has many more good ones to come.

Secondly, I'm utterly in the dark as to his difficulties with his family, but I'll tell you a little story. My dad's mother was a despicable and cruel-hearted woman, and that used to give me all kinds of guilt problems when I was a teenager. After all, how dare I not like and love my blood kin, right?

Well, when I was nineteen or twenty, I suppose, I came to a realization that helped me quite a lot in my life. I decided that I didn't get to choose her, or any of my family, for that matter, and I was therefore free to decide on my own how I'd deal with these people. From then on, I was only polite if I ever saw the old bat, and more or less did my best to avoid her like a dose of the clap. She finally died a few years back, and I won't pretend that it wasn't a stress-point between my father and I, and if she gets mentioned, it still is. He either really didn't see her for what she was, or how she treated others, or he chose not to see it, but one way or another, I'm still happy to this day that I eliminated her from my heart back then, and I'd do the same thing again in a flash if I was carried back in time.

Lastly, as to your amusement and happiness about Rick's dad ... I don't know what he did, and I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that he's undeserving of your affections, but I'll make a couple points here. Jesus told us to forgive, not for the sake of those who wronged us, but for our own sakes. Hate only hurts the one doing the hating. Besides, think of how satisfied he just might be to know that you're there letting his memories disturb your happiness. Besides, is his grandmother being on the level, or is she just hoping to re-unify the family on the basis of a white lie in a birthday card? That's for you to decide, I suppose.

I'm out.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 9:19:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Rick!
I'll just stay out of the in-law conversation. Oh, tell Zippy the sinnerboy to pound sand and quit reading this site if he doesn't like the content.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 5:35:00 PM, Blogger Alex said...

Not bad at all. If he really cries, it's because he knows his molestation/attempted rape of you was a heinous act which tramatized you. His punishment by you and Rick is mild by any measure. If you reported him to he police, he might have served time! Your reaction then and now is perfectly appropriate and a small consolation for the pain that man has caused you. If her son had murdered you, the grandmother would probably still be willing to forgive and forget, but that's just the way parents are... It's difficult for them to see it clearly when their offspring do horrible acts.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 6:33:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Isn't that prostitution, soliciting people to spank you? Why would you want anyone to be upset? This does sound wicked to me too.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 10:17:00 PM, Blogger Mike said...

You were wicked long before the chuckle. I don't know what happened, but I know you have a good heart. If you take some joy in his supposed pain, then you should just acknowledge that it is bot wicked and wrong and move on.

Too many people shy away from their darker sides. They still have them, just don't have the guts to admit it.

At Saturday, September 18, 2004 11:22:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

As I said, I had no idea what the root of the conflict was. How would that be considered "judging"? I think a lot of people have a very wide definition of what judging means.

Goodwife, now having an inkling of what it's all about, I apologize if I offended. But I do tend to agree with what the earlier poster said, that forgiving is what Jesus taught - and keeping that hatred in your heart takes up room that could be better used in other areas.

Sounds corny, but I've found it to be true.



At Sunday, September 19, 2004 11:01:00 AM, Blogger Mr B said...

Humm, Catch 22.

1. Happy Birthday Rick.
2. As a thought... What really matters is the life you
are living with Rick and the future you have with
That should not really be influenced by anybody but
you and Rick. From this point onwards some peace
gesture could be made to reduce another person's
suffering, as much as you can. On the other foot
your feelings reflect the sub-consious truth that
you really know about, and the feelings of being
guilty arise from this 'truth' bumping into your
consious morals.
3. Make a peace offering and solve more than one

I hope this helps, BUT I am not a psychiatrist or a good speller.

Thanks for reading...

At Sunday, September 19, 2004 2:32:00 PM, Blogger FireResQGuru said...

Happy B-day to Rick..... and many more. I see the religious nuts are back at it - I'm not gonna say nuffin'!

I say your reaction is normal and justifed. Been there, done that, someone stole the t-shirt.

There is the spanking thing again..... :)

At Sunday, September 19, 2004 4:16:00 PM, Blogger wilde_thought said...

Ha, maybe I'll finally get to post. Tried to comment on the worker's building your neighbor's deck peeing all over the place but I kept getting time outs. Good Wife, I think your blog is too successful. You said that I could always email you but due to a glitch in this computer, or did Microsoft change it, I can't get my hotmail to work in Mozilla. And don't even get me started on Internet Explorer and what a sorry piece of malware targeted crap it is. Anyhoo, no. No, you shouldn't feel guilty about secretly enjoying the pain your father-in-law might be experienceing. After the crazy, literally and figuratively, stuff he did to you as a kid you have every right not to want him in your life. If anyone needs to make the effort it's Ricky's dad. If he were an adult about the whole thing he'd accept the fact that the two of you are wounded by his actions and that the best he could ever do is get Ricky back in his life only at arm's distance. Forget about ever talking to you again.

Forgiving the guy is a decision you'll have to make. But forgiving him and wanting him in your life are two distinct things.

At Sunday, September 19, 2004 6:01:00 PM, Blogger BadGirl said...

Hi, sorry to ask this very unrelated question and comment. We use the same blog template and I am trying to figure out how to add links to the side area of my blog. Can you point me in the right direction?

Also, I love your blog! I enjoy stopping by to see what you've added! When I get the link thing figured out, I would like to link to your blog.




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